In this powerful and moving blog post, a former tech bro who came out as a woman shares her story of transition and self-discovery.
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In 2014, Reddit co-founder Alexis Ohanian announced he was leaving the company. In an emotional post on the site, he said he was doing so to “focus on my real passion: reddit.”
In the years since, Ohanian has been outspoken about his love for Reddit and its potential as a platform for good. He’s also been vocal about his support for marriage equality and equal rights for women.
Now, in a new interview with Fast Company, Ohanian is opening up about his own journey with gender and identity.
Ohanian says that when he was growing up, he didn’t know anyone who was openly transgender or non-binary. It wasn’t until he got to college that he began to explore his own gender identity.
“I think for me it started with just this nagging feeling of not feeling like I belonged in the catch-all of ‘male,’” he said. “It wasn’t until my early 20s that I really started exploring what that meant for me and started to piece together that I actually might be transgender.”
However, Ohanian says he didn’t fully come to terms with his identity until much later. It wasn’t until 2017 that he began hormone therapy and began living as a woman.
“For me, it’s been this incredibly empowering experience,” he said. “I feel like I’m finally able to just be myself.”
Ohanian says he hopes his story will inspire other transgender and non-binary people to come out and live their truth.
“I want everyone out there who is struggling with their gender identity to know that they are not alone,” he said. “There is a community of people who love and support you, and you can be your true self.”
The early years
In an interview with Business Insider, tech bro Paige Shipe shares her story of coming out as a woman.
Shipe, who was born and raised in the small town of Julian, North Carolina, says she always felt “different” from her peers. She loved going to school and was top of her class, but she says she was never able to fully fit in with her classmates.
“There was definitely a period of time where I tried to act like more like the other girls, but it never really felt genuine,” she said. “I was always more interested in things like science and math.”
In college, Shipe studied computer science and became interested in the tech industry After graduation, she landed a job at a startup in San Francisco. It was there that she began to transition into her true self.
“I started coming out to my friends and family as transgender about two years ago,” she said. “It was definitely a process, but I’m really happy with who I am today.”
Shipe says she’s grateful to work in an industry that is accepting of her transition. She is currently working on a new project that helps transgender people find jobs in tech.
The decision to come out
It was a difficult decision, but one that I knew I had to make. I had been living a lie for too long, and it was time to come out as a woman.
I grew up in the tech industry and it was always a male-dominated field. I never really felt like I fit in, but I loved the work. So I decided to stay in the closet and just try to fit in as best as I could.
But it became harder and harder to keep up the act. I was exhausted from pretending to be someone I wasn’t. And I knew that if I didn’t come out soon, I was going to crack under the pressure.
So I took the plunge and came out to my employer as a woman. It was a tough conversation, but it went well overall. They were supportive and understanding, and they agreed to let me transition at work.
It’s been almost a year since I came out, and things have been going well. I’m finally living my life as my true self, and it feels amazing.
The reaction of family and friends
It’s been two years since I came out as a woman, and in that time, I’ve faced a lot of difficult situations. I’ve been rejected by family and friends, I’ve been fired from my job, and I’ve faced discrimination on a daily basis. But despite all of the challenges, I wouldn’t change my decision for anything.
coming out as transgender was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but it was also the best thing I’ve ever done. It allowed me to be true to myself and to finally start living my life authentically.
One of the most difficult aspects of coming out has been dealing with the reaction of family and friends. Many people simply don’t understand what it means to be transgender, and so they react with fear, anger, or denial.
I was fortunate enough to have a supportive wife who stood by me through everything, but not everyone is so lucky. For many transgender people, coming out means losing their family and friends. This can be an extremely difficult experience, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. There are many others who have gone through this same experience and there are plenty of resources available to help you through it.
If you are thinking about coming out as transgender, know that it will not be easy, but it will be worth it. You deserve to live your life authentically and there is nothing more rewarding than being true to yourself.
The challenges of living as a woman
When Rebecca Marchant was working in the male-dominated tech industry, she kept her gender identity a secret. But after coming out as a woman, she’s found herself having to navigate a whole new set of challenges.
Marchant, who is now a software engineer at Google, spoke to Business Insider about what it’s like to be a transgender woman in the tech industry.
“The biggest challenge has been dealing with people’s reactions,” she said. “Some people are really supportive and accepting, but there are also those who are not so understanding.”
Marchant said that she has had to deal with various forms of discrimination since coming out as a woman, including being told that she is “not really a woman” and that she is “confusing” people.
Despite the challenges, Marchant said that she is happy with her decision to come out and that she feels more comfortable in her own skin.
Her story is one that is likely to be repeated as more and more people in the tech industry come out as transgender. And it’s a story that has a very different ending than it might have just a few years ago.
When she came out as a woman, she was met with support from her colleagues and started living her life as her true self. She began hormone therapy and had surgery to transition. And, most importantly, she kept her job.
In the past, coming out as transgender often meant losing your job and being forced out of the tech industry. But times are changing, and companies are gradually becoming more accepting of transgender employees. There are still challenges, of course, but the future looks brighter for transgender people in tech than it ever has before.